About Me

My name is Pete Soderman, and I live in Ajijic, Jalisco, Mexico, with my wife, Gethyn. Ajijic is a village of approximately 15,000 people, located on the Northern shore of Lake Chapala, roughly 45 minutes by car south of Guadalajara, Mexico’s second-largest city. We are retired here, as are many other Americans, Canadians, and Europeans, enjoying a near-perfect climate, low cost of living, and the friendliness of the Mexican people.

I had a 26-year drinking career that began on my eighteenth birthday, and ended in August of 1990. The last two years were the worst, and as a result of a series of events, I found myself at an AA meeting after a friend told me it was a place where I could learn to drink normally. It isn’t, of course, but I found that I couldn’t agree with its principles, nor follow most of its suggestions, except for one, I didn’t drink. Why was I successful when an overwhelming percentage of those who stumble into AA fail to stay sober for any length of time?

My search for the answer to that question is what this book is all about. I had to find my own way, and in doing that, I discovered that most addicts recover completely on their own, or with minimal help, and that their methods for doing so were readily accessible if one was willing to research the available scientific literature. I spent several years doing just that, and arrived at the conclusion that the established addiction treatment industry was using methods that the research community knew, and had known for years, were ineffective, and in fact counterproductive.

The bottom line, I found, was that the key to recovery for most people wasn’t spiritual at all, it was cognitive! A recovering addict needed a good deal of motivation, a way to overcome urges, the skills to deal with life’s normal problems without a drug, and the ability to change their focus from short-term gratification to the achievement of long-term goals. Once these became a part of one’s life, falling back into addictive habits became virtually impossible, as long as the recovered individual maintained their attitude and outlook.

I helped start a SMART Recovery® meeting in Wilmington, NC, because after the principles of that program were explained to me, it was obvious that SMART included almost all of the methodologies that my research had determined were among the most effective for the largest group of addicts. Many of those methodologies had been a part of my life for many years.

When I moved to Mexico, I began working on this book, and started a local SMART meeting here as well. As I mention often in the book, no single program will work for everyone, and there are probably almost as many paths to recovery as there are addicts who have successfully recovered. This book is about choices. I had few choices when it was time for me to get sober; I had to discover them for myself. Powerless No Longer is about offering you the choices that I didn’t have. Tools you can pick and choose from to find what works for you.

I wish you the best on your personal journey.

10 Responses to About Me

  1. Bill Lindley says:

    Pete, I thoroughly enjoyed you intro. I have an interest in following your progress and will do so. Best wishes for you in this most important “project”.

    Bill L

  2. Bill Lindley says:

    Am interested in following your progress..

    Bill Lindley

  3. sbj1964 says:

    Hey ,like your post just stoped by to say hello. Keep up the good work will be back to check out your post soon. You have been Bookmarked.

  4. PJ says:

    Pete… You’re right on all points. And, thank you for sharing your story in such a hope-giving way. Hope is the bridge that delivers us across the depths of doubt, experienced in the journey, to great strides in self efficacy. Keep up the great work…We’ll flood this evidence-based reality into the mainstream and drown out that which has served to drag so many deserving souls into the dark abyss of dogma. It takes time, as we know. But, what you write about is already saving lives, saving families… Thank you for doing what you’re doing! Continued health and peace to you and yours…

    PJ

  5. Jeremy Floyd says:

    Pete,

    Great to see your blog. Contact me sometime. I celebrate 18 months on January the 18th. I hope all is well for you in Ol’Mexico.

    Jeremy

  6. Hi, I would like to subscribe for this web site to get newest updates, thus where can i do it please help.

  7. Terry says:

    Pete, one of the reasons I liked n.a over a.a. Was there 1st step was powerless over my addiction. I did not ask for it and realized it was a mental issue. Not something in a bottle

    Terry

  8. Do Nothing Taker says:

    Hi! I nominated you for a “Liebster Award” (which can help bloggers get more readers)…the instructions on how to follow through with it are on my latest blog: http://donothingtaker.wordpress.com

    Keep on writing 🙂

  9. Hello there! I could have sworn I’ve been to this blog before but after browsing through many of the posts I
    realized it’s new to me. Nonetheless, I’m certainly happy I
    discovered it and I’ll be book-marking it and checking back
    often!

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